Posts Tagged ‘wedding’


Hair Ideas

April 6, 2010

It’s pretty hard to find hairstyles I like modeled by girls with bangs.  Of course I turned to the adorable Zooey Deschanel as my fringed muse.


Walker Sky Pesher wedding

April 4, 2010

I had never been to the Sky Pesher piece at the Walker until this weekend when I went with my sister.  The Sky Pesher is an underground display where you sit and look up through a pristine white ‘frame’ that creates a picturesque and peaceful view of the sky.  The installation is serene and lovely, and I was delighted to find out that a wedding took place there!

A quote from the City Pages blog:

“We were initially worried that 30 people would be close quarters, but thankfully everyone was able to sit on the benches surrounding us during our ceremony. To the best of my knowledge, no one has been married in Sky Pesher before. We liked it as a location for the wedding. My wife and I are not religious, but there is a sanctity and spirtuality to the space. My wife is studying to become a landscape architect, so a connection to the earth is a big part of both of our lives right now.”


If you were wondering…

February 18, 2010

A few people bouncing in from Offbeat Bride are wondering… what happened?  Did I get in engaged?

The answer? YES!  And here’s the story!

Joe and I went to visit our friends in Santa Barabara California to escape the long hard Wisconsin winter.  We spent the week biking, cooking, reading, playing bocce ball, cruising around wine country, crafting and being outside every moment possible!

On January 11 Joe drove me up into the hills to go on a hike together.  We saw a cool rock and decided to climb up to it. Once at the top I was looking out, taking a picture… and Joe said ‘Hey, Shelby… look at this’.  I turned around and he was on bended knee.  I of course said yes.  And cried a little.  And we took a few pictures together and then drove back down the mountain, our lives forever changed!


Jumping for Joy



February 11, 2010

Crafting and sewing are appealing to me, but my favorite medium is video production.  My friend Kate shared with me that when planning a wedding, you should take on tasks that are within your strengths and outsource things that are not.  Kate is a florist, so she is ordering and designing all the florals for her own wedding!  I don’t know if I’m quite that ambitious, but I thought it would be do-able to create a video that reflects Joe and my personalities.

I feel like Save the Date videos are trendy and overdone… but I’m just going to ignore that and do something fresh and fun because I can do it well and my loved ones will enjoy it.  That and it’s cheaper than printing and mailing a bunch of postcards people are just going to chuck anyway.  I’ve never understood spending a bunch money on pieces of paper and was going to print up a bunch of free Vistaprint postcards until I had Moral Crisis #1 over the invitations.

That’s right, I encountered my first Moral Panic.  It happened after listening to Judith Martin (Ms. Manners) talking about invitations as a place to put your ‘best foot forward’.  Suddenly my bargain mindedness about sending out some free postcards and saving money on postage faded away.  It’s not that I want to impress anyone or prove to anyone that we aren’t broke (we are)… I just want my announcements to reflect the sincerity that I feel about marriage and not seem cheap.  I am still resolved to keep my invites as simple and as cheap as possible, but I will be doing more to ‘put my best face forward’.  Which means double the postage and envelopes.  But damn it, Ms. Martin’s argument was just so compelling.

Joe and I are not very serious people… we are not doing lovey dovey portraits or videos of us fawning over each other.  We are just having fun, and I hope our video conveys a spirit of fun and celebration.  Laughter brings us together, and something I love about Joe is his ability to make me laugh.  I feel like he will keep me young with his light hearted approach to life.  Again, we are not serious people but we take our marriage seriously.  Hopefully we can keep a good balance of fun and sincerity in our ceremony and in our marriage.


How to pull off a $40 dollar dress?

February 3, 2010

Hil and I ripping the dress in half

I found a great dress on Etsy a while back.  It was $40 from Lea’s Vintage. It fits many of my preferences for my wedding dress: cotton, tea length, washable, slim waist and beautiful cutwork to boot!  There are a few things that I would need adjusted to love it though, such as removing the shoulder pads and bringing in some of the extra fabric around the hips.  Luckily (as I’ve mentioned before) my sister is a talented seamstress and is confident she can re-structure the bodice, bring up the waist and take out some of the bulk in the hips.

I love the idea of having a dress that is comfortable enough to wear again.  In order to pull off a cheap dress I feel like I need to have the right attitude.  I need to feel good in it and be happy to be comfortable and carefree in what I am wearing!  Right now I am feeling some pressure to shop for fairy princess dresses at bridal stores.  Do I have the guts to just go with a cheap dress that I merely like, not love yet?  I’ve never been the kind of girl that fantasizes about being a bride, so I don’t really have any expectations for my dress except for looking good in it and being comfortable.

If you have any thoughts about homemade/cheap dresses, comment!  I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

The dress, before


Clover and Bee ‘Best of Midwest’

February 1, 2010

Clover and Bee is starting their ‘Best of the Midwest’ guide.  Their midwest focus and beautiful aesthetic is very exciting!


Budget tools

February 1, 2010

I love working with limitations because it has forced me to really prioritize what I details I want to focus on, and what things I truly don’t care about.  My advice would be to determine what matters to you then stick to your guns when people start telling you what THEY think you should care about.  As I’ve been finding, people have a surprising amount of opinions about anything wedding related.  I will hear out advice with respect, but since I’ve already made up my mind about a few things, it makes it easier to filter out what I will take to heart.

My parents are funding our wedding, and I must say I am extremely fortunate to have reasonable, relaxed benefactors.  I feel no pressure at all from my folks to have the wedding a certain way, while at the same time I want to be a respectful steward of their generous financial gift to Joe and I.

Here are a few tools I found that really helped me start laying out my budget:

Here is a blank Excel document that can be edited to fit your details.

I also found some great Martha Stewart tools that are very useful for creating a checklist, seating chart (if you have one), calendar and budget.